Divorce Coaches Academy

You're Not the Boss of Me: Helping Clients Hold Onto Their Power

March 01, 2023 Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak Season 1 Episode 45
Divorce Coaches Academy
You're Not the Boss of Me: Helping Clients Hold Onto Their Power
Show Notes

When clients punt responsibility for their divorce decisions to others, it's a recipe for regret and resentment. In today's episode, Tracy and Debra discuss why this happens, what the repercussions are for the client, and what you can do to help.

We get it. Clients beginning the divorce process are scared. There's so much they don't understand and many assume they simply go hire an attorney and that's all they need to do. Their attorney will protect them and work for their best interests.

Ah, but it isn't that simple. Abdicating responsibility for decision making to an attorney or other professional just leaves clients feeling confused, disempowered, frustrated, and angry. These are the people that feel victimized and are still talking about their divorce 5 or 10 years after the fact.

If a client wanted to remodel their kitchen, they wouldn't let their contractors set the budget, decide where to put the electrical outlets or choose the backsplash tile. Why are they so quick to hand their power over in divorce?

As a divorce coach, our job is to help our clients take back the reins. To support them in learning to use their voice, ask questions, communicate clearly and directly, and use their divorce team members as contractors. Certainly, they may need the assistance of attorneys or financial professionals for their expertise, but our client is the decision maker.

When you can support your client to stay engaged and be in charge of their own divorce, instead of punting that to someone else, they'll be able to make informed, intentional decisions. And that's a win.

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